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The Legendary Leaders Podcast

Sep 17, 2020


How confident are you in asking for what you want in the bedroom? Did you know that a woman who knows what to ask in the bedroom, knows what she deserves and how to ask for it in her other aspects of life? As women, we tend to forget about our own sexual pleasure as we become preoccupied with life and hence lose our overall confidence which shouldn’t be the case.


Angel Johnstone is the creator of Confidence is Catchy and writer of erotic and short stories. She creates confidence-building programs and events for women by teaching them how to regain their confidence by asking their partners what they want in the bedroom. She discovered this journey two years ago but has a long history of exercising self-confidence seeing that she used to be a conscious exotic dancer when she was younger.


Listen in to learn how being confident in the bedroom to ask for what you want translates to asking for what you want in other areas of your life. You will also learn how you can start your journey of sexual communication with your partner.



Key Takeaways:

  • Teaching women how to break the shame and embrace their sexuality confidently.
  • The importance of body confidence in achieving success in other areas of your life.
  • The desire journal- writing down a storyline of the sex life that you actually want with our partner.
  • How sexual confidence translates into your other areas of life.


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Episode Timeline:

  • [0:41] Intro
  • [4:48] Angel narrates her journey of teaching women how to translate their sexual confidence into business in the last 2 years.
  • [9:51] The shame women feel around sex that hinders them from asking for what they want in the bedroom.
  • [14:02] How sex is pushed as taboo towards women at a young age which leads to self-consciousness around it as adults.
  • [18:34] She explains the stigma that surrounded her as a conscious exotic dancer and now as an erotic writer.
  • [21:15] The lessons that Angel learned about human connection in her years as an exotic dancer.
  • [24:49] Communication strategies to use in the bedroom with your partner without hurting anyone’s feelings.
  • [32:21] The process of building your confidence that you have to keep on practicing how to get more.
  • [35:17] She explains areas and situations that sexual confidence starts manifesting in your life.
  • [38:48] Demure things that instill self-consciousness in women for them not to go after their heart’s desire.
  • [41:07] Why having confidence waves is not a bad thing- how to bounce back when the waves are low.


Standout Quotes:

  • “To find some pleasure in your day, every day that’s just for you is almost a monumental task for some women but that’s where you start.”- Angel Johnstone [28:58]


  • “The more confident you get, the more secure you get in yourself; you start to realize when places are toxic, and you start to allow yourself to leave them.”- Angel Johnstone [36:43]


  • “It’s not that the negative feelings don’t come, it’s just what’s your recovery time? – Angel Johnstone [41:55]


  • “Think about all the moments that you have experienced that’s fun and passionate, and how it made you feel even days afterward.”- Cathleen Merkel [45:39]



Find | Cathleen Merkel


On Instagram: @CathleenMerkel

On Facebook: @CathleenMerkelCoaching

On LinkedIn: @CathleenMerkel



Find | Angel Johnstone


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On TikTok: @confidenceiscatchy


Check out Angel’s latest book




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About Cathleen: 


As a Thought Leader in the Mindset & (Self-) Leadership space, Cathleen supports high achieving, but worn-out women create a more content & balanced life without sacrificing their hard-earned success. Following a simple 6 step framework, she helps you not only reconnect with your inner feminine side; Cathleen also supports you to rediscover your REAL YOU!

Cathleen focuses on women who lost their sense of purpose, who feel they are running in a hamster wheel, trying to please everyone but themselves. She helps you to turn your careers, your social connections and personal life around so that you will start feeling fulfilled and excited again about the days to come.  

At the end of the process, Cathleen's clients will feel healthier, happier, energised and clear about their future.  

With over 15 years of leadership experience in Retail, Media & Broadcasting, Engineering and Property Investment, Cathleen has not only experienced the challenges and opportunities of a female leader herself, she has also been leading and supporting various leadership development initiatives within large, complex, multinational matrix organisations.


Only by deeply experiencing her very personal life challenges – ‘hitting a wall experiences’ –Cathleen was able to redefine her own purpose, deciding to bring ease and content to as many women as possible on the planet!


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About Angel Johnstone:


Angel Johnstone is an erotica author and writer of short stories for women.  She creates confidence building programs and events in the United States by moulding together her diverse work background with her love of personal development strategies.   With a list of “failures” a mile long, she knows that within every new beginning is the gift of an opportunity… the opportunity to move past shame, disappointment, and fear into a fully authentic lifestyle. 


Angel started the website and her Facebook page to bring inspiring ideas and confidence building resources together.   In an effort to help give back to her community, Angel uses her love of public speaking and performance to inspire women to come out of their comfort zone. In the time of pandemic, she moved her efforts online to help women find community and sisterhood while exploring pleasure and purpose during a difficult time. 


Direct, down to earth and practical, Angel Johnstone helps women who are searching for no nonsense solutions find fun ways to grow into their future.  Her mission is to help women feel more confident so that they can change the world together!