Aug 16, 2022
Did you know that conflict is never the issue, but mismanagement of conflict is? As a Leader, the more you’re able to expand yourself to confront, deal with, and solve conflict, the more at ease you will be with it. It’s important to be aware of your mismanagement pattern, in order to be a better conflict Manager.
In this episode of the Legendary Leaders Podcast, we
have Marlene Chism, a Consultant, Author, and the Leading Authority
on stopping workplace drama. Marlene works with Leaders to build
drama-free cultures, that drive growth and reduce costly mistakes.
Marlene is known for helping Managers address “the elephant in
the room” and initiates conversations, that get results. She’s
a recognized expert on the LinkedIn Learning Platform, producing
five educational video series on topics that include: ‘Anger
Management, Working with High-Conflict people, and Having Difficult
Conversations.’
Marlene has a degree in Communications, a Master’s in Human
Resources Development, and she’s an Advanced Practitioner in
Narrative Coaching.
Listen in to learn why mismanagement is the problem, and not conflict, plus, the three patterns that lead to mismanagement. You will also learn how expanding your conflict capacity leads to personal expansion, self-awareness, and the acceptance of others.
This podcast is sponsored by InnerProfessional online training programs. With courses geared specifically for Legendary Leaders, InnerProfessional provides an extraordinary catalog of leadership and professional development programs unlike any online training you’ve experienced before.
Key Takeaways:
- How avoidance, appeasing and aggression patterns, lead to mismanagement.
- Why you need to address the conflict, after calming down from an anger outburst.
- How to recognize your choice to find your power and be at your capacity.
- Learn to do good work without focusing on trying to change negative minds.
- How to have the willingness to listen to opposing views, to have the complete picture.
- How expanding your conflict capacity leads to personal expansion and self-awareness.
Episode timeline:
- [1:13] Intro
- [5:29] Marlene explains why mismanagement is the issue, not conflict.
- [8:39] How our family of origin shapes our identity and the patterns we adapt to as adults.
- [10:45] Marlise explains the process of writing her latest book and the lessons she learned along the way.
- [16:05] Why you should ensure an opportunity is aligned with your goals and values.
- [19:37] How Managers create conflict by operating from fear, rather than from their values.
- [23:06] The model, to help you get clarity as a Leader and how to give your employees clarity.
- [26:57] Why Conflict Management is more applicable to people who identify as Leaders.
- [31:41] The importance of noticing when you’re at capacity, and how you want to show up.
- [41:38] How to reprogram your mind and have a plan to help you deal with conflict.
- [49:40] How to handle the conflict that arises when your opinion differs from others.
- [58:20] The benefits of expanding your conflict capacity as opposed to embracing conflict.
Quotes:
- “If the opportunity forces you to go against your values, you will suffer.”- Marlene Chism [17:28]
- “Do what works for you; it’s about your life, whatever methodology is working for you, that’s really what you need to adopt.”- Marlene Chism [32:54]
- “If you can recognize your choice, you can find your power.” - Marlene Chism [40:34]
- “Every conflict, any discussion, and any situation, can bring so much learning.”- Cathleen Merkel [53:24]
- “The need to be right soothes the ego, but the willingness to be wrong, changes the culture.”- Marlene Chism [54:46]
Find | Marlene Chism
Business Website: https://marlenechism.com/
On LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/marlenechism/
On YouTube: https://youtube.com/marlenechism
Book: From Conflict to Courage: How to Stop Avoiding and Start
Leading.
Bio: Marlene Chism is a Consultant, an Author and the Leading Authority on stopping Workplace Drama. She works with Leaders to build drama-free cultures that drive growth and reduce costly mistakes. Marlene is known for helping Managers address “the elephant in the room” and initiate conversations, that gets results.
Marlene is a recognized expert on the LinkedIn Learning Platform, producing five educational video series on topics that include: ‘Anger Management, Working with High Conflict people, and Having Difficult conversations’.
She has a degree in Communications, a Master’s in Human Resources Development, and she’s an Advanced Practitioner in Narrative Coaching.
Marlene is the Author of five books including her latest book, ‘From Conflict to Courage: How to Stop Avoiding and Start Leading.
Connect:
Find | Cathleen Merkel
At cathleenmerkel.com
On Instagram: @CathleenMerkel
On Facebook: @CathleenMerkelCoaching
On LinkedIn: @CathleenMerkel
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About Cathleen Merkel:
As a Thought Leader in the Mindset & (Self-)
Leadership space, Cathleen supports high achieving,
worn-out women create a more content & balanced life without
sacrificing their hard-earned success. Following a simple 6 step
framework, Cathleen helps you not only reconnect with your inner
feminine side; Cathleen also supports you to rediscover your REAL
YOU!
Cathleen focuses on women who have lost their sense of purpose, who
feel they are ‘running in a hamster wheel’, trying to
please everyone but themselves. She helps you to turn your careers,
your social connections and personal life around, so that you will
start feeling fulfilled and excited again about the days to
come. At the end of the process, Cathleen's clients will feel
healthier, happier, energised and clear about their
future.
With over 15 years of Leadership experience in Retail, Media & Broadcasting, Engineering and Property Investment, Cathleen has not only experienced the challenges and opportunities of a Female Leader herself; she has also been leading and supporting various Leadership Development initiatives within large, complex, multinational matrix organisations.
Only by deeply experiencing her very personal life challenges – ‘hitting a wall experiences’ – was Cathleen able to redefine her own purpose, deciding to bring ease and content to as many women as possible on the planet!
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