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The Legendary Leaders Podcast

Oct 8, 2020


Are you living up to your fullest potential on your own terms?


How are you being resilient without losing yourself?


It is easy to lose yourself while constantly comparing yourself with others in your career or life. But true resilience is not perfection, but rather a very personal journey.


Dr. Taryn Marie Stejskal is the former executive leadership development at Nike and the founder of Resilient Leadership. She is also the author of FLOURISH OR FOLD: The Five Practices of Particularly Resilient People, a book where she breaks down the true meaning of resilience.


Dr. Taryn suffered post-traumatic stress for many years due to traumatic events that happened in her teenage years and felt great shame around the topic. Listen in to learn how she slowly overcame the challenge of shame around something that wasn't her fault. You will also learn how to personalize your resilient journey by being authentic and empathetic in all areas of your life.


Key Takeaways:

  • The power of being your best self with positive intent and without comparing yourself.
  • The process of finding your purpose and living up to your full potential.
  • The importance of having the grit to intelligently achieve your goals.
  • Learning to be vulnerable in your story and letting go of the shame around the challenges you’ve faced.


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Episode Timeline:

  • [0:41] Intro
  • [5:06] The true meaning of resilience - meeting yourself where you’re rather than striving for perfection.
  • [8:55] Dr. Taryn narrates the things she does to make things go well and her history with post-traumatic stress.
  • [16:22] Learning how to live up to your fullest potential on your own terms.
  • [22:23] Understanding the principles of being resilient without losing yourself.
  • [27:21] How to connect deeply with yourself through what works for you and those you relate with.
  • [29:46] How Dr. Taryn allowed herself to be in her vulnerability and let go of the shame of the trauma she experienced before.
  • [35:26] The practice of grandiosity (gratitude + generosity) and how to be grateful for your trauma and share with others generously.
  • [38:50] How to acknowledge danger and opportunity and to keep on the spirit of possibility.


Standout Quotes:

  • “Resilience isn’t about being perfect, resilience isn’t about having it all together, but really allowing ourselves to meet ourselves where we are.”- Dr. Taryn [7:08]


  • “It’s okay to change your mind, it’s okay to want something different at a later stage, and it’s not too late.”- Cathleen [22:15]


  • “Vulnerability is the soil that empathy and authenticity grow in, we can’t be authentic without first being vulnerable and we can’t be empathetic without being vulnerable to our own feelings.”-Dr. Taryn [31:02]


  • “We’re craving for the feeling that we’re not alone; we’re craving for authenticity of people who are real.”- Cathleen [35:28]



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Find | Dr. Taryn Marie Stejskal

Websites: Resilience Leadership and Resilience Element

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Check out Dr. Taryn’s book “Flourish Or Fold: The Five Practices of Particularly Resilient People




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About Cathleen: 


As a Thought Leader in the Mindset & (Self-) Leadership space, Cathleen supports high achieving, but worn-out women create a more content & balanced life without sacrificing their hard-earned success. Following a simple 6 step framework, she helps you not only reconnect with your inner feminine side; Cathleen also supports you to rediscover your REAL YOU!

Cathleen focuses on women who lost their sense of purpose, who feel they are running in a hamster wheel, trying to please everyone but themselves. She helps you to turn your careers, your social connections and personal life around so that you will start feeling fulfilled and excited again about the days to come.  

At the end of the process, Cathleen's clients will feel healthier, happier, energised and clear about their future.  

With over 15 years of leadership experience in Retail, Media & Broadcasting, Engineering and Property Investment, Cathleen has not only experienced the challenges and opportunities of a female leader herself, she has also been leading and supporting various leadership development initiatives within large, complex, multinational matrix organisations.


Only by deeply experiencing her very personal life challenges – ‘hitting a wall experiences’ –Cathleen was able to redefine her own purpose, deciding to bring ease and content to as many women as possible on the planet!


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About Dr. Taryn Marie Stejskal, Ph.D.  


Dr. Taryn Marie is a foremost international expert on resilience, in both leadership and life. She is the author of “Flourish or Fold: The Five Practices of Particularly Resilient People”, and is featured in the forthcoming documentary Breaking Free, both expected to release in 2021. She is the former Head of Executive Leadership Development at Nike, Global Leadership Development at Cigna, and founded Resilience Leadership, where she serves as the Chief Resilience Officer (CRO), leveraging over a decade of research on resilience, that gave birth to the empirically-based framework, The Five Practices of Particularly Resilient People, for executive coaching, top-team effectiveness, high potential leadership programs and workshops, and inspirational keynote addresses. She is a sought-after coach for executives, athletes, musicians, and actors who are looking for an edge by way of understanding and harnessing their inherent resilience. 


Dr. Taryn Marie is a Co-Founder of Resilience Element 75 (RE75), focused on making resilience accessible to the world through film and wearable technology as well as serving as one of Marshall Goldsmith’s Top 100 Coaches across the globe. Her groundbreaking research on resilience has been featured in publications such as Ariana Huffington’s Thrive Global, Ladders, LA Progressive, and Women’s Daily Magazine, on television broadcasts, and featured online by Happify, eMindful, and Powerful Universe.  


Dr. Stejskal received an undergraduate degree in psychology from the University of Michigan along with a master’s in Marriage and Family Therapy (MFT) and a doctorate degree from the University of Maryland, College Park. She completed pre- and post-doctoral fellowships at Virginia Commonwealth Medical University. She serves as an ambassador for The African Community and Conservation Foundation (ACCF) as well as several non- and for-profit boards.